Purity Profile: King David (Part 1)


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In this Purity Profile Post we examine King David from the bible and his sin with Bathsheba. What can we learn from his failure?

Purity Profile (King David-Part 1) from Be Broken Ministries.

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Purity Post: Proverbs on Purity (Part 3)


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More wise words concerning sexuality from the book of Proverbs. This Purity Post highlights the personal and private design of sex between a man and his wife.

Proverbs on Purity (Part 3) from Be Broken Ministries.

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Purity Post: Proverbs on Purity (Part 2)


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The book of Proverbs in the Bible is filled with wisdom and insights for living a godly life. This post takes a look at what our response should be to the lure of lustful temptations.

Proverbs on Purity (Part 2) from Be Broken Ministries.

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The Secret to Enjoying God’s Grace


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Is there more to enjoying God’s grace than simply possessing eternal life? Jonathan Daugherty shared this sermon on the topic at Northeast Bible Church.

The Secret to Enjoying God’s Grace from Be Broken Ministries.


Not Everyone Wants Help


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Years ago I met a guy who stumbled across our ministry while searching out help for his porn addiction. I suggested he start attending our weekly group; a place he could start digging into his brokenness and seeing how God might put him back together as a new man of integrity. He started attending, but would continually wallow in his shame. He was unreceptive to the truth about God’s grace, or even the grace extended to him by the other guys in the group. He falsely assumed his rejection of grace was a noble response because he was just too far gone to be loved or wanted. He came into the group with the appearance of wanting help, but never actually opened his heart to the truth. He eventually left the group.

The Bible shares a similar encounter that Jesus had during his ministry. It’s found in Matthew 19, starting in verse 16:

And behold, a man came up to him, saying, “Teacher, what good deed must I do to have eternal life?” And he said to him, “Why do you ask me about what is good? There is only one who is good. If you would enter life, keep the commandments.” He said to him, “Which ones?” And Jesus said, “You shall not murder, You shall not commit adultery, You shall not steal, You shall not bear false witness, Honor your father and mother, and, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” The young man said to him, “All these I have kept. What do I still lack?” Jesus said to him, “If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” When the young man heard this he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.

This man approaches Jesus, seeking out his help on a very important question. “What good deed must I do to have eternal life?” That’s a pretty deep question. It’s not like he’s asking Jesus directions to the nearest camel-filling station. He’s asking for help on a life or death question. Unfortunately, he comes to the question with ignorance and arrogance.

His ignorance is highlighted in his understanding of eternal life. He asks what “good deed” he must do to gain eternal life, but no one can gain eternal life through works. Eternal life is a gift from God given to those who put their trust in Him. No deeds involved, just childlike faith. But his ignorance isn’t that big a deal; lots of people are ignorant when it comes to seeking out help for their problems. In fact, it’s often ignorance that drives us to seek answers. When you don’t know something (i.e. you are ignorant) you ask questions. This is good. But if that ignorance is married to arrogance, it’s unlikely you will be receptive to any help offered. This rich guy wasn’t.

I’m actually astonished at the level of arrogance this guy exhibited. But somehow Jesus didn’t flinch. The guy asks what he should do to have eternal life and Jesus tells him; keep the commandments. For clarification, the guy asks which ones, to which Jesus responds with what we’ll dub the “Big 6.” And then this rich guy has the audacity to suggest that he has kept these laws perfectly! What?! Has he lost his mind? How can he stand there and say that with a straight face? Regardless, he does and then asks, “What do I still lack?” Then Jesus carefully fires an arrow of truth that pierces this guy’s heart in a way it had never been stabbed before.

“Sell everything, give it to the poor, and come follow me.”

This is the moment of truth for the rich young man. Did he really want the truth? Was he going to receive the help Jesus offered? No. His arrogance was exposed. He went away sad, unwilling to allow the truth to change him. Instead, he was hoping he could manipulate God’s Law to fit his agenda and desires instead of him being molded by God. Jesus then used this as a teachable moment:

And Jesus said to his disciples, “Truly, I say to you, only with difficulty will a rich person enter the kingdom of heaven. Again I tell you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.” When the disciples heard this, they were greatly astonished, saying, “Who then can be saved?” But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

It’s hard for someone who doesn’t really want help to hear the truth about redemption and transformation. In fact, it’s so hard that from our human perspective it can only be concluded that it is impossible. But Jesus offers hope to His disciples and to us, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

I don’t know if I’ll ever see that man from years ago in group again, but I pray for him whenever he comes to mind. I pray that the God of the impossible would melt his heart of stone and shame, and give him a new heart, one receptive to the truth of God’s grace and power to transform even the most broken sinner into a useful saint in His kingdom. It’s what God does best, the impossible!

But we must have the resolve and conviction of Jesus, to stand firm in the truth even when those seeking our help walk away. Jesus didn’t chase this man down to try and convince him to change. He instead entrusted him to the Father, that one day this man’s love of riches would wear him down enough to finally embrace the message of hope Jesus gave him on that pivotal day.

What is wearing you down? What do you need to give up in order to embrace the help God is offering to you? Is it money? Is it porn? Is it power, career, ministry? Whatever it is that you are using to resist God’s truth for change, maybe today is the day you lay it down, and instead take up your cross and follow Jesus. It’s the only way to find peace and offer help to others that is actually — helpful.


Recovery: A Hopeful Anxiety


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One of the themes that we weave throughout our Gateway to Freedom workshop is that the men there are men of courage. In fact, it’s the first thing I tell them in the first session. You should see the looks I get. Shock. Disbelief. Some even turn away and won’t make eye contact. You see, the idea of courage doesn’t line up with what their shame has told them. But that’s okay. Shame never tells the truth.

One of my favorite things to see happen at our 3-day intensives is the metamorphosis that occurs in less than 72 hours. Guys enter with their heads hung low, barely talking, avoiding eye contact, and just generally looking uncomfortable. After all, they’re there because they’re a “sex addict.” One of “those guys.” The least of the least, who deserve to be quarantined and cast out of society. Or so they think. But we treat them like Jesus would, looking past their exterior of shame or super spirituality or false humility, and instead address their heart. And we tell them the truth about who they are in Christ; more than conquerors! Men of courage.

By Sunday, these guys are talking, laughing, sharing, crying, hugging, connecting. The truth of the life of Christ in them bursts through the hard casing of the lies of shame that have held them prisoner to their sin. They discover that we weren’t lying to them – they are men of courage. And the hope of Christ breathes new life into their suffocating soul.

One man at a recent workshop shared in his closing comments how he felt about the road of recovery ahead, and I believe he described beautifully what the journey from secret shame to open courage feels like: hopeful anxiety. Doesn’t that just paint the picture of what our journey of faith often feels like? There is such hope in the gospel of Jesus, who sets us free from the shackles of sin and darkness. Yet there is often such anxiety in the process of working out that salvation in our daily lives. We battle temptation, both external and internal. We face obstacles and challenges that we didn’t anticipate. We regularly hear the truth of God’s Word, but sometimes it gets drowned out by the sound of our knees knocking together in fear.

I appreciate the honesty of this man’s description of recovery. It means he isn’t hiding from his brokenness any longer. Too often we paint our journey of faith with only flowers and lovely sunrises. But those who follow Jesus know that in this life there are many clouds and storms, moments and seasons that are fearful and discouraging. But if we can be honest – that we feel hopeful anxiety – then I believe our faith, and recovery, begins to flourish. For it is the truth that sets us free.

Jesus doesn’t condemn us for being afraid on the journey. Nor does He shame us for all the substitute ways we have tried to meet needs that only come by way of confession and repentance. Instead, He faithfully reminds us of the truth about who we are in Him; saints, a new creation, a child of the King, conquerors. He looks at us in our brokenness and declares, “You are a man of courage.” And you know what? He’s right. But will you believe Him?


Purity Post: Proverbs on Purity (Part 1)


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The book of Proverbs in the Bible is filled with wisdom and insights for living a godly life. This post, and others to come, will take a look at these insights that specifically relate to sexual integrity.

Proverbs on Purity (Part 1) from Be Broken Ministries.

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Purity Post: A Higher Standard for Sex (Part 2)


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This is the final post in a 2-part series on God’s high standard for sexuality. In our culture that worships a “no boundaries” kind of lifestyle, this message is relevant and life-saving.

A Higher Standard for Sex (Part 2) from Be Broken Ministries.

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Through a Wife’s Eyes


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The following is a letter a wife wrote in response to her husband’s sexual addiction. It is rich with insights and hope for any woman facing similar betrayal and heartache. If you are a wife struggling through the discovery of your husband’s secret sexual sin, please contact us for help.


His addiction has left me empty, cold, and bitter. Totally exhausted. I study myself and question myself constantly. I am not pretty enough, I am not thin enough, I am not sexy enough. Fun? What is fun? I used to have fun going to the mall or going out to dinner or the movies. I used to want to get out and do things, but now when I am in public with my husband it is a sort of dread and anguish for me. Questions and thoughts run through my head. I scan the room to see which of these women is my husband lusting after? Who is my competition?

Women used to be my friends, now they are my competitors. I used to feel pretty, I used to feel sexy. Now I just feel that I am the consolation prize. I don’t even know if it is possible to feel pretty and sexy again. Mental exhaustion is a way of life. Trying to remember to take the laptop with me when I leave, hiding the Kindle Fire, checking the cell phone. When I get home, and he has been home alone, I look for clues. Asking questions 5 different ways to make sure he is not lying to me. Paying close attention to details, checking the bank account for miscellaneous charges. Wondering when is he going to go so far that I will have to make a decision to leave.

I am thankful that my husband went to Gateway to Freedom and I believe that if he works the program and if I allow God to heal me of deep hurt then I do believe there is hope for us. I want to trust my husband again, I want to forgive him and I will, but I don’t want to be a fool. I am willing to walk this walk with him but, he will be required to to work this program harder than he has worked anything in his life.

He will have to be honest, no secrets. He will have to answer the questions that I have and understand that it is going to take time for me to trust him and believe what he says. I want him to work this program just as intently as he sought his porn. He coddled it, he protected it, he fed it, he hunted after it. He defended it. I, on the other hand, also understand that I need help. I need to be restored by the Restorer.

I am committing to pray for my husband daily, to ask God for wisdom for  my husband, for strength. I will ask God to restore our marriage and my husband as a Godly man, for direction for our family. I will work daily not to condemn my husband, but to ask God to show me how to help keep him accountable. I also commit to spending more time in God’s Word, allowing Him to love me, define me and heal me. I will get involved with other women who have dealt with the same pain I am dealing with now and commit to help other women when God restores me.


God isn’t Mad at You


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Ask 100 people what they think of God and you will get 100 different answers. But behind a majority of those answers (for those who acknowledge God exists) you might find a whole lot of fear. And I’m not talking about awesome reverence. It’s more like the fear someone covered in honey has of an angry, hungry bear. Many people think of God as angry and vengeful. And for anyone struggling with addictive behaviors, this fear is usually times ten.

I spent much of my childhood and early adult years living in fear of this angry God. I believed that every time I messed up (sinned) that God was shaking His head in disgust (at best) or lining up a lightning bolt to finally take me out (at worst). As a result of this view of God, I obviously never felt close to Him, nor did I want to approach Him. After all, who runs toward the hungry bear?

I have met hundreds of individuals with similar beliefs. They grew up to understand God as angry. And who could blame them? There is, after all, a lot of blood in the Bible. Reading through the Old Testament you will soon find one instance after another where God exacts justice on rebellious people; often in the form of war and death. So, one is left to draw conclusions about this God, and angry seems to fit the bill. I mean, why else would God act in such ways if it isn’t out of anger?

First, God is not like us. The Bible tells us that His ways are higher than ours, and His thoughts too (Isaiah 55:9). He is perfect, flawless, sinless, not bound by time or space. He is Creator, Judge, Redeemer. He chose to make humans in His image, bearing a sense of His character and creativity. He did not create out of need, but rather out of His desire to share; He is a giver, lover, friend. He does feel anger, but He doesn’t process it like we do. When one begins to understand just how “other” God is, the perspective through which we understand His actions can change.

For instance, when we see human beings get angry, we see all sorts of resulting behaviors that are unhealthy and unhelpful. This is because human anger drives us toward self-pity; our desires were blocked, so we feel angry and then behave in ways that hurt others to try and regain our power and achieve our agenda. And most of our anger is unjustified, meaning it isn’t based on moral law or the greater good of humanity. It’s more like a 2-year-old throwing a tantrum because someone took their toy away.

When God feels angry, His perspective is perfect, just, and always with mankind’s best in mind. He is a good Father, but even more than that — He is the definition of Life. When God made Adam, He breathed into his nostrils and the man became a living being. Apart from God, we cannot exist. Since He is the central element to life, He is the absolute authority on its best function. When human beings look to anything or anyone else for life, this is offensive to God. But God’s anger isn’t like someone pouting because they didn’t get picked for the team. His anger is righteous, justified. But His actions when angry might surprise you; they are borne of love, leading us to fullness of life.

We tend to think of all anger as leading to punishment. For instance, if you’re angry you have a right to hurt someone. Anger justifies malicious behavior. Now, a lot of us would quickly deny this out of our desire to not be perceived as cruel. But it’s still true. Human anger seeks to destroy. But God’s anger isn’t destructive, it is corrective, like a father training his son to live rightly. And God’s anger isn’t seething, ever present under a guise of good will and kindness. He feels it, He deals with it, and He reminds us of His love. His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23).

You might be thinking, “But your title of this article says God isn’t mad at me. How is He not mad at me if He is capable of all this anger?” God’s attributes are not weighed on a scale. He is fully 100% of all His attributes at all times. So, His justice isn’t greater or lesser than His love or mercy or grace. His omnipresence isn’t greater or lesser than His omnipotence. So when He feels angry, it doesn’t overpower any of His other attributes. This is why His expressions of anger are not destructive, rather they are corrective. His entire motivation for ALL His interactions with humanity is LOVE! (John 3:16)

My understanding of this concept of God’s love overshadowing all His decisions really grew when I had children. Certainly, no human analogy could ever fully encompass the infinite expanse of God’s love for us, but parenthood does give a dim shadow of this phenomenon. I love my children. I want the best for them. I would give my life to protect them and provide for them. Love is the guiding principle of my decision-making when it comes to training up my children, even when it is necessary to discipline them for disobedience. The discipline isn’t for the sake of punishing them or withdrawing my love. Quite the opposite. It is because I love them that I correct them in their error or rebellion.

God loves you — more than you could comprehend. No matter how far you have wandered away from Him, or how vehemently you have denied Him, He has never wavered in His love for you. He is faithful, both to remind you of His affection for you and to correct you when you stray. But He never wags His finger at you in shame or with malicious intent. His goal is that you experience the fullness of life, to know Him (the Author of life) intimately. He is the perfect Dad, always desiring closeness with His children and the best He has to offer. Maybe it is time you stopped hiding from the false angry god of your own making, and instead crawl up into the lap of your heavenly Father whose caring eye is ever on you. If you do, you might just discover that perfect Love casts out fear, and that the real God is better than you ever imagined…