Sexual Insight
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One Saturday morning my buddy and myself were leading a men’s training series. We were speaking to a group of men on the topic of male sexuality. We had been going around to churches and speaking to men’s groups. Our mission was to challenge men to step up their lives in the area of personal sexual thought discipline. I had finished speaking and sat down when my co-leader, Jonathan Daugherty, stood up to speak.
I had heard his talk numerous times previously. I settled in for a few moments to wait and fidget while he spoke. This, however, was not to be a regular Saturday morning presentation. Something was said straight from the heart of God. It was so profound that it shook me to my core. My spirit surged. My emotional self sat straight up. I quietly repeated, What did he say? What was it? Did he say what I thought he said? Men, brace yourself for a very profound spiritual insight.
The thought is very simple. However, it is so foreign to most men. You have never heard this insight from your father. No male teacher has every shared this insight. The culture does not repeat or promote this insight. You won’t hear one man saying this to another man. It is so true and yet so alien. It is a spiritual truism.
In this culture we are told the exact opposite of this spiritual truth. The insight is obviously about male sexuality. However, let me remind you of these often repeated permissive sexual beliefs:
- Boys will be boys.
- Boys will sow their wild oats.
- Men are just like that.
- You know how men are.
- They can’t control themselves.
I read this magazine article a while back. It had a gripping story about several women in Idaho. A young woman in deep distress went to visit her mother. They were both sitting at the kitchen table. The young woman quietly spoke, “I just found out my husband has been cheating on me.” The mother burst into tears. They both cried for a while. Some of the mother’s tears were for her daughter, but some of the her tears were also for herself.
The mother spoke slowly, “Oh dear, I am so sorry. But I must tell you something I never told anyone. Your father cheated on me. I remember going to my mother’s house in tears and telling her the same story. Your grandmother gave me some advice that I still remember. She said, 'Men can’t help themselves. To a man, sex is like food. And a man has to eat.' Don’t worry dear, that other woman doesn’t mean anything to him.”
What was the advice? Sex is like food to a man - and a man has to eat. What kind of advice is that? The story and the advice implies that men do not have the ability to bridle their sexuality. It is obvious that the men spoken of in the article did not exercise sexual discipline. Those men were willing to destroy good women for an evening of pleasure.
I share all this to give an opposing view of male sexuality. The insight I am about to disclose is a spiritual truth. I want every man reading this column to agree to read and meditate on this statement. I want you to wrestle with God and understand He wants you to embrace this insight. When sexual temptation arises I want you to repeat these words. Here goes...
“YOU WERE MADE FOR PURITY!”
That’s it. It is exactly opposite of what most men are being taught by the culture.
Think about it. You were made by God to walk in purity. (1 Thes. 4:7) You were made to stand on innocence. You are called to have the faith of a child. If you fill your head daily with lies and distracting sexual noise, how can you live as designed? The world says the more sexual thoughts, experiences and ideas you have the happier you will be. The Father says, “Fight for purity. Hold on to purity. Claim purity as your mission."
If you do so, what you will find is the sound of internal peace and quiet. You will hear that soothing voice of your Father saying, “Well done, good and faithful servant." Men of God, go forth and loose yourself from the lies of your past. Embrace the truth that will allow you to claim peace which passes understanding. Hold on to purity!
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