Sexual freedom means that an individual realizes the following three truths:
1. God created me as a sexual being.
2. Sexuality is not inherently bad. In fact, it is beautiful.
3. Healthy sexuality is expressed within the context of a vibrant, maturing marriage.
God created me as a sexual being
A cornerstone truth that recovering sex addicts must realize is that God is the one who created us as sexual beings. It is no mistake that we desire sexual pleasure. The sooner we can understand this, the sooner we find our way to sexual freedom.
Sexuality is not inherently bad
Many sex addicts believe that anything sexual is bad. Many addicts believe this because they have taken something good and repeatedly used it in a wrong manner. When we take something that was intended to be a beautiful expression of deep and growing intimacy and use it in selfish, degrading, and harmful ways it can seem ugly and dirty to us. That is why we long for freedom. But we must realize that our freedom is from wrong perceptions and selfish attitudes, not sex.
Healthy sexuality is expressed in marriage
It is extremely important for recovering sex addicts to understand that there is only one context in which healthy sexuality can be fully expressed and enjoyed: marriage! Some may disagree with us on this point, but we base our ministry on the principles of the Bible and believe that sex will never be fully appreciated outside of marriage. Sex addicts especially must reverse their habits of disconnection and isolation, and marriage provides the base of commitment needed to seek true intimacy. Apart from commitment there is no responsibility to change our bad habits. To cultivate a healthy sex life, an addict needs to have committed people surrounding him/her with loving accountability.
If you are SINGLE and struggle with sexual addiction, please contact us for more in depth help.
Sexual freedom is a continuing journey. We seek to help the sexually addicted find their way to the freedom they desire.
